The user doesn't ask 'what do I want in a relationship?'—they ask 'what is the conventional question actually measuring, and what is it a proxy for?' This same move recurs across other frameworks: proxy-for-capability, no-ambiguity, calculated-risk-taker. The pattern: ignore templates the world hands you (soulmate, completion, 'you complete me') and re-route through first-principles. The systems-thinking lens here is the user's own orientation, not a borrowed framework—and it's the orientation that makes their answers defensible a decade later.
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