A relationship is an emergent system where the combination produces more than the sum of its parts—but the emergent value lives in each individual, not in the relationship-as-entity or the couple-as-blob. The precise phrasing matters: 'each individual IS greater than the sum of there parts,' not 'the relationship is greater.' This means the relationship is valued for what it does to each person, not as an end in itself. The goal is not 'two happy people co-existing' but 'two people whose combination creates something neither could produce alone—and each individual retains their own flourishing.'
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