Pre-select 2-3 options you actually want, then present them as if the other person is freely choosing. They feel respected and in control, but every path leads to your ideal outcome. The classic example: instead of vaguely asking 'do you want to hang out sometime?' and risking a yes with no date, first get agreement, then offer 'does Tuesday or Wednesday night work for you?' Both nights work for you, one of them will almost certainly work for her, and she feels like she's setting the schedule. The same framework unlocks employee productivity: 'do you want to take that ad agency call today or write that email sequence?' Either way, the work gets done today.
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