Rejecting trophy-partner dynamics isn't about egalitarianism — it's about competence signaling. A partner-as-trophy is a partner-as-display-object, which is the relational version of social-display over substance. You want a partner who is competent, not just impressive, because the same fear-of-ineptitude frame that drives your work drives your relationships. You measure people by what they can do, not what their presence signals about you.
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